Be your Own Architect

Just A Little Time… every day.

Every day, everyday, you are the habits of what you do ever day.  It is what sings through my head as I go through my day, everyday. It is tough to stay focused on your side hustle, when there are so many distractions that turn my head at any given time. “shiny things, shiny things” …its like a bird being distracted by things that glimmer in the sun.  Summer in YEG is just one big long distraction, despite the rain.  It is truly when the city comes alive and the sun who rises and falls so early and late reminds us of what we have been waiting for all winter long.  Add to this a little vintage hunting for night market, vacation, friends and well I have not been practicing my mantra of “everyday, everyday”.

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It is 8 weeks until the next night market… which means I have no choice but to focus.  Being boss lady sounds “all that…” at least the title is cool,  although I do like Head Mermaid so much more, but lets be real.  If I do not do the work, nothing will happen.  Creating great events out of the ether is not a simple task, especially when you are bootstrapping it.  The marketing machine does not happen on its own and the skill set it takes to do this well is far from easy.  I bow to all you social media mavens out there… tough work in a landscape that changes moment to moment.

For every boss lady out there remember you are crushing it, every day one step at a time.  Hold your head up, do the superman pose, smile at your fellow boss ladies because we should all be in this together, holding each other up instead of pushing each other down.

Be bold, write your own adventures, your life right now, at this moment is the result of what you do most, what you are doing every day…. good or bad its all down to you.

Under construction… designing for happiness

“When I was a little girl I didn’t dream of princesses and castles, I didn’t dream of my wedding, the dress and shoes..  my earliest memory with the answer to “what I would do when I grew up” was to be a business woman.  That was the moment I became responsible for my own happiness.  My parents job to guide me to think for myself, understand what would make me happy was completed.  Happiness is a feeling… and not in things.

This was the moment I began designing what happy would look like for me …the notion of wearing a power suit and driving a fast car was my idea of what a successful business person looked like. (It was the 80’s after all… so that meant a leather blue, power suit, with big shoulders)

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It wasn’t typical for women to be in business, I never seemed to notice. One of my favorite things to do growing up was discovering markets around the world, and slowly exploring all the amazing things they had to offer.  Flea markets in Greece, night markets in BC and Italy, farmers markets in Montreal, street vendors in Belize, garage sales at home…. I could spend hours doing it.  I was always trying to find a night market here at home that gave me the same feel.

That was my “a-ha” moment…. if I couldn’t find a night market,  I had to build it myself and if I built it they would come :).  It has not been an easy journey with many hills on the way.  I have some great vendors who continue to be part of my journey and for that I am thankful…”

If the only thing getting you through the week is Friday….

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If you start out each week counting the seconds until Friday rolls around again ….. you might want to look at what you are doing that is sucking out the joy.  Sometimes it is simple stuff, people trying to suck your joy, tasks that suck joy all day long or simply because  you stayed up too late and making it through the day let alone the week seems like an impossible task.

I stayed up too late last night…. it sucked the joy right out of me.  I may not make it… if you find my corpse sleeping under my desk.  Just leave me… it is better for everyone that way.

When its this cold all we talk about is the weather….

a23a438f1ce116b2d6d630350a1e2463--cold-weather-funny-so-funnyWell… when you starting saying it’s warming up out there because it is now “only -26 o/c” you know you live somewhere too cold for humans.  It makes it pretty easy to work and stay indoors.  That means I really have no excuse… even though I can give you a million right off the top of my head for not doing more… it never seems to be enough somehow.

Today I heard some good advice on @garyvee … if you do not want to work on it all day… you haven’t picked the right thing.  It is so true.  There were so many times in my life growing up that I tried to fit a square peg in a triangle hole… it almost fit, but I knew it did not feel right.  I kept plugging away only to leave whatever I thought “i should be doing” for something I actually wanted to do.

At the finish line the only thing that matters is “were you happy and did you make others happy?” If you think about that you might realize you do not have to change anything just because “should” told you to. Your happy is not the same as anyone else… that’s kinda the point.

What are the things you must do everyday to be happy? Figure that out and you win.

#justsayin #nightmarketyeg

Just Sayn’

I am proud of my family.  We have many firsts.  Maybe this is what drives me to take advantage of the opportunities that I would not have had if my family didn’t decide to be the master of their lives.  It is pretty humbling.  Whenever I think ” I am tired, I should just give up… I can’t … I remember..  My grandpa was on the first black baseball team in Alberta, I have many relatives in this clip.  It keeps me going whenever life gets dark.

Just Sayin’

 

the odds of us being born in the life we have now, here, in Canada are comparable to winning the lotto every week for a year.  Yet, we are always looking at the next step before we enjoy the one we are on.  I distinctly remember “If I could just do ______ insert any goal” and having achieved that goal I am already looking at the step ahead of me thinking ” Well, that step looks so nice, look at what that step has that this one doesn’t, maybe this step is not as good as I thought it was and I really should have thought more about the other one”.  Then the cycle begins, the never ending hamster wheel to more.  In the process we miss enjoying our kids grow up (if they could just be older) or are parents, our partners, our jobs… Funny thing, that monster is insatiable and no matter where you are, how much you achieve, how much money you have there will ALWAYS be someone who has more.  There is no one winner in this race and you will not be declared “World Winner”.

When we slow down and think about what we need to be happy, we are often surprised by how much we really need.  Television, magazines, the news tell you excess is better…. I am not a sheep, so I will vintage shop, not feed the hungry monster who makes us need and then pushes us to show everyone on every form of social media how we are winning.

 

For now, I am going to enjoy the step I am on thank you very much.